Be yourself, because an original is worth more than a copy, the world will have to love your original self, if it doesn’t, then it looses.
You don’t need anyone’s permission, approval or affection in order to be good enough, your worth isn’t contingent upon people’s acceptance to you, its something inherent.
Daniell Koepke said ” you exist, therefore you matter, you’re allowed to voice out your thoughts and feelings, you’re allowed to hold on to the truth , that who you are is exactly enough, and you’re allowed to remove anyone from your life who makes you feel otherwise”.
“Waking up to who you are requires letting go of who you imagine yourself to be.” ~Alan Watts.
I’ve heard the statement “just be yourself” so much that it sounds like an amazing thing to do, and I have wished many times that I could just do that. What I’ve wondered, though, is what in the world does that mean? What if someone is a jerk to other people? Is it okay for them to just be themselves and go on being a jerk to everyone?
How about people who are fearful of being around others and live a hermit-like life, avoiding people? In my quest for answers , I’ve found that it is very much possible to just be yourself. The person who is a jerk to others and the person who is afraid of social situations are not being themselves. Their real self is just being covered up with conditioned, fear-based thinking.
Our true self is who we really are when we let go of all of the stories, labels, and judgments that we have placed upon ourselves. It is who we naturally are without the masks and pretentiousness. It is who we really are when we let fall to the floor the cloak of other people’s stuff that we have taken on. Everything else that we claim to be when we say, “This is who I am!” is only a story.
We need to uncover our real nature, by being outside of the accumulated thoughts and beliefs that we have collected over a lifetime, and in doing that, we need to;
– Get in touch with our inner child. If you ever watch small children , you will notice just how free they are and how little they care about what other people think of them. They are happy and in the moment, they are their true natures. My little cousin Aninna will play till she falls asleep when she was growing up, she will smile in her sleep, leaving me wondering.
Children don’t care if people think that they are silly while they dance in the front yard for all of the neighbors to see, children are just pure love and light. If you really want to get in touch with your inner child, become freer. Play, have fun, enjoy the moment, do cartwheels in the front yard, be your original self.
“Dont compare yours self to others, you are not a copy, you are an original, craft your own individuality and sense of style and just be you” -Daya
Then you need to become more aware of your thoughts, You may be shocked by the number of negative thoughts that run through your mind on any given day. After so long, our reality begins to take shape based on all of these conditioned thinking patterns. You need to become more aware of the quality of your thinking, allow yourself to sit quietly every morning before starting your day for just five to ten minutes. Yes, thoughts will come and go, but just allow them to do that without getting attached to them. Just observe them.
We have so many unconscious beliefs that we have taken on over the years that were probably handed down to us from somebody else, and we believe it to be who we are.
Becoming more aware of the quality of your thoughts, letting go of the old beliefs, and becoming more present can help in revealing your true nature.
You then have to follow your intuition, this is probably one of the most important factors in being yourself. I ignored my intuition for the longest time because I felt so obligated to others, their happiness was more important than my own.
I will tell you this, from my own little personal experience: When you start following the little nudges and urges that you get, you will have hopped onto the magic carpet ride of awesomeness. It doesn’t mean that you will never have bumps in the road again, but when you are in alignment with your soul, you will always be steered in the best possible direction.
I had lost touch with my natural self and stuffed it away in a box, whenever I would notice myself getting attached to the stories and labels in my head or would catch myself playing roles with others, I would just breathe and relax into the moment without any labels or judgments, it was seriously a challenge because I cared so much about being accepted by others, So I would ask myself, “How would I act right now if I had no cares of what others thought of me?” I realized that who I naturally am without anything else added is perfectly okay. I would stand in front of my mirror and give pep talks to myself, i will be like ” Mercy, you are beautiful,you are unique, you are special, you are smart, you are you, and that’s enough, Mercy i will make you proud.
When you let go of the old ways of thinking, follow your bliss, and do what you love, you will begin to align with happiness and peace, love yourself, laugh more, dance and enjoy ur company, surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you, most importantly, be your original self.
This piece was written by Dayil Daya Mercy, inspired by Omale U Godwin. Thanks for bringing out the best in me.